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I know when to speak and when to keep quiet.
I am mastering the art of knowing when to speak and when to keep quiet. There are times when I must speak out on my behalf or that of someone else, but there are also times when it is best to be silent.
Communication skills are important in every area: my family, work, friends, and even strangers. My communication skills improve with every interaction.
To decipher whether I need to be quiet or speak, I am learning to read the other person. If the person with whom I am speaking with is angry, it is often best for me to keep a cool head so I will be free from regret.
When I am socializing with my friends, it is important for me to speak and keep my friends engaged. At the same time, I must take turns so we all can share our stories.
When others speak, I listen intently. I focus on listening and waiting my turn instead of planning what I will say next. I allow others to have a conversation with me without cutting them off.
I bite my tongue and abstain from speaking when I genuinely have nothing good to say. My goal is to lift others up; therefore, I simply refrain from commenting when I am unable to encourage. Being silent is better than being untrue.
Today, I choose to listen to what others have to say and refrain from interrupting them while they speak.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How can I be a better listener?
2. Do I interrupt others when they speak?
3. What can I say to build others up?
Tags: Communication skills, listener, quiet, speak
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The 11 Forgotten Laws
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Loneliness can creep up on the best of us from time to time. Is loneliness a challenge in your life? If so, it’s good to know that, with the right mindset and the drive to change, you can combat loneliness in any situation.
It’s okay to feel lonely. Sometimes it just happens. However, you have the power to decide whether you want to wallow in it or meet it head on. When you take decisive action to overcome your loneliness, you can have a smile back on your face in no time.
Here are some helpful strategies to beat loneliness:
1. Avoid sitting around fretting. When you think about it, getting upset isn’t going to help you, so why do it? If you’re not actively looking for something to fill your time, you’ll find that loneliness catches up with you eventually. Even if you don’t have the company of others, you can seek out ways to use your time in fun and productive ways.
2. Engage in a new hobby. If you’ve turned to your current hobbies and are still feeling lonely or bored, try to find something new and exciting. Explore a new hobby that you’ve always been meaning to try but haven’t had the time.
3. Take a class. Taking a class is a good way to come into contact with others who have the same interests as you. So you get double benefits – you learn something new about a subject that interests you and meet new people you have something in common with as well.
4. Volunteer to help others. When you’re feeling lonely, helping others can be a win-win situation. With volunteer activities, you do something great for the world and get some healthy human interaction in the process.
5. Get a dog. Dogs are natural friend-finders. If you have a dog, take your dog out for frequent walks in your neighborhood, local dog park, or dog beach. If you don’t have a dog, consider getting one. Dogs help you break the ice with other dog-lovers.
* There are many online groups of dog owners. Find one of these communities and get involved.
6. Go to church or other spiritual places. You’ll likely find likeminded people at your place of prayer or worship. You may even start up a new relationship with a potential lifelong friend.
7. Talk to strangers. Engage in some light chatter with strangers in public situations. For example, you can strike up a lively conversation while waiting in the grocery store line. Every person in that line is most likely as bored as you are. Pass the time together and you might even start a new friendship.
8. Call a friend. Look up a friend or family member that you haven’t talked to in awhile and catch up with each other while reminiscing about old times. By the end of your conversation, a happy and nostalgic mood might have replaced the lonely one you were in before.
9. Start a social group. You can start a social group around a topic that you enjoy. If you’re a stay at home mom, maybe you’ll want to connect with other moms. If you’re really into amateur guitar playing, maybe you’ll want to meet up and jam with some people. Explore different ways to socialize online or put up flyers at local hangout spots.
You’ll find that with the right attitude and some action, you don’t have to sit at home with your loneliness any longer. Use these techniques to meet new friends and enjoy exciting new experiences!
Tags: Loneliness
I forgive quickly.
When someone hurts me, I choose to forgive him or her as a way to free myself from a grudge. Forgiveness allows me to turn the page and end a chapter of bitterness.
As I let go of past hurts, I feel the chains begin to fall and I become a liberated individual at peace with myself.
The sooner I make the decision to forgive, the less time I will have to harbor negativity in my heart. The quicker I get rid of the hurt, the less of it will remain. The healing process may take time, but in the end, the freedom is worth it.
When I forgive quickly, I remove resentment from my mind and get back my ability to focus or concentrate on daily tasks. My relationships flourish because I am unaffected by worry and distraction.
I forgive as fast as I can because I am determined to repel all negativity from my life. I walk through life free from the burden of resentment. Positive thoughts and emotions rule my mind.
Prayer is the tool that enables me to reach the place of forgiveness. When I pray, I am honest with myself about how I feel. I ask for strength and courage to move on with my life without any anger for the offense.
Today, I choose to believe in the possibility of a better future by forgiving those who hurt me. I use my energy to form new relationships with peace of mind and a happy heart.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. Who do I need to forgive today?
2. Why is it important to forgive quickly?
3. Am I allowing old wounds to keep me from my destiny?
I live each day on purpose.
I prevent my days from turning into weeks, then months, then years, by setting out to live each day with a plan and purpose.
I refuse to allow life to happen to me while I simply react to it. Armed with a plan and the knowledge of my purpose, I greet each day ready to do what I need to do.
When I think of the year ahead of me, I want to make every single day count, starting with today. Living each day on purpose puts me in the driver’s seat of my life.
Every decision I make, I make intentionally, with the goal of getting one step closer to fulfilling my purpose. I have become proactive by eliminating my habit of putting things off until later.
Haphazard living is over for me. I am an adult fully capable for taking charge of my own life. The power to change my days lies within me.
I have removed myself from the sidelines and I have become an active participant in the game of life. Instead of watching my life unfold, I am now the co-author of my life’s success story.
My friends and family are cheering me on as I make life-changing decisions. They support my plans to better myself and are inspired by my progress. My loved ones begin to take charge of their own lives, also, as they see my success.
Today, I choose to take action and do what needs to be done today. The “catch-up” game is over and I am in control of my destiny.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How can I better plan my days for success?
2. How can I make my life count today?
3. What is one thing I have been putting off that I can accomplish today?
Limits are essential in my life because they protect me from destruction and distractions. On the path to success, limits prevent me from missing the mark.
Establishing boundaries to help me organize my life is an act of love. Just like a mother sets restrictions for her children’s safety, my boundaries are markers within which I can safely navigate.
When I know where my limits are, I can be confident of the steps I am taking. Uncertainty about boundaries causes me to walk in fear. I establish limits in my life so I may walk without hesitation.
In order to set limits for myself, I must be honest about who I am and what I want out of life. Having a clear vision helps me to identify paths, friendships, and behavior that are conducive to success and those that aren’t.
I understand that, while some things may be fun, they may not be beneficial to my life’s overall goals. It is in these circumstances that my limits save me from following paths that may lead me astray.
Once my limits are established and I know where my boundaries are, I can enjoy myself to the fullest. My freedom increases with the assurance that every move I make can ultimately benefit me.
Today, I choose to set boundaries for my own behavior. I identify areas in my life that are out of control and I give myself the gift of peace of mind by placing positive limitations in my life.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How do limits increase my freedom?
2. Why are limits essential to reaching my goals?
3. What boundaries can I create for my life?
Tags: freedom
I connect with my family by turning off distractions.
I turn off all types of distractions in order to give my full attention to my family. Making my family a priority helps them to feel the love that I have for them.
The computer is a resource for me to work and stay connected with family and friends. When unnecessary distractions try to hold my attention away from the things that matter, I have enough self-control to turn myself away.
I keep track of how much time I spend on my mobile devices to ensure that I am balancing my time efficiently. I make a point each day to spend more time looking into my children’s eyes and speaking face to face with my souse than I spend on any other activity.
My family and I eat together at the table every night without distractions. The television remains turned off during family meals to allow us time to focus on each other and talk about our day.
I screen my calls and only answer the most important ones when I am around my family. I want to be present in the lives of my children so that they can have beautiful memories of their childhood to treasure for years to come.
If I feel tempted to waste time on my phone or laptop, I free myself by hiding it from my sight. I remind myself constantly that family and relationships are the only things of true value – the only things that last forever.
Today, I choose my family over my computer, the phone, a game, TV, or any other distraction.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. Is my schedule balanced?
2. Which distraction do I need to remove from my view?
3. Am I spending my time on things of eternal value?
Tags: Affirmation, Distractions, Family
I rejoice in giving.
Giving to others is a pleasure because it reminds me that I am blessed. I count it a privilege to be able to give. Every day, I am showered with blessings, which I look forward to sharing with others.
When I give to others, I am the one who benefits. Seeing the look of joy on someone’s face after receiving my gift makes it all worthwhile. My giving comes from the heart; therefore I continue to give even when I feel empty.
I give freely, with no strings attached. I refrain from competition, comparison, and boasting because I give based on what I can give, regardless of what others may give.
I choose to give free from pressure. I put a lot of time and thought into my giving. Before I offer a gift, I am filled with joy and excitement in anticipation of the reaction of the recipient.
Giving is more satisfying than receiving. Knowing that I have helped a person in their time of need is priceless. Just as I would want others to be there for me in my time of need, I am there for others.
My giving is not limited to financial or material things; I give of myself, too.
When I am around my loved ones, I make it a point to be present in the moment and to give all of my attention to them. I volunteer for worthy causes because giving of my time and strength makes a difference.
Today, I choose to make an impact on the lives of those around me by lovingly opening my arms. After all, the more I give away, the more I gain!
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. Why do I give?
2. Which non-material gift can I share with my loved ones?
3. What can I give today?
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Affirmations – Love Yourself. I love the person I see when I look in the mirror. When I stand before myself, I see a beautiful, talented, hard-working individual willing to do whatever it takes to fulfill my dreams.
Not only do I love my personality, but I also love my physical appearance. In my inner dialogue, I build myself up with encouragement. Criticism is absent from my mind.
Whenever I am displeased with what I see, I make adjustments to my lifestyle to achieve the desired results. I make every necessary effort to be the person I want to look at. I work out on a regular basis to keep my body in the shape it deserves.
I am the only one who determines what I want to look like. As long as I love what I see in the mirror, the opinions of others are irrelevant.
When I stand before my own reflection in the mirror, I am filled with pride at who I am. The sacrifices I make daily to improve my image are paying off.
Loving who I see in the mirror requires forgiving myself of past wrongs and being patient with myself as I progress toward my goals.
At mealtimes, I keep in mind that everything I eat has an effect on my body. Having this mentality helps me exercise good judgment during meals.
Today, I choose to embrace myself just the way I am. I choose to accept my imperfections and work on the things that I desire to change.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. What is my favorite physical attribute?
2. What is one thing I would like to change?
3. How can I make my inner dialogue more encouraging?
I live in the now because the present is all I have. This very moment where I find myself is the only one I am concerned with. I enjoy this time free from memories of the past or thoughts about the future.
When I wake up in the morning, I welcome a new day filled with opportunity and endless possibilities.
With the dawn of each day comes another chance to write a better chapter in the story of my life. My life is open to the possibilities each new day brings.
Whether my past was filled with sweet memories or bitter regrets, I know the past is over and I want to make new memories today. Memories from yesterday are stored in my mind’s attic as I make room for the adventures of today.
I am confident in who I am today and where I am going tomorrow because of the lessons learned from the past. The past has equipped me with the wisdom to make better decisions from this point forward.
Passion drives me to live through each moment of my day to the fullest without wasting time dwelling on things beyond my control. I take pleasure in this day by pushing aside worries that are irrelevant to this moment.
Today, I choose to enjoy myself because today is a gift to be cherished. I hold on to each moment like a treasure of time that is mine for only an instant.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. Are my thoughts focused on today?
2. Have I surrendered to things beyond my control?
3. What kind of memories do I want to make today?
Tags: Affirmation
Patience preserves my spirit.
Exercising patience is the outward evidence of understanding my own imperfections and accepting those of others. Showing patience starts with myself when I fall short of my expectations.
I forgive my own shortcomings in order to be able to forgive others and accept their mistakes. I am an encourager. I build others up by giving them second chances to prove themselves.
Patience preserves my health by keeping me free from stress. My blood pressure remains at a healthy level when I take things in stride and avoid sweating the small stuff.
I am slow to anger and quick to forgive. My emotions are not in control of me; I am in control of my emotions. When I feel angry, I can speak to my emotions to calm down or I can distract myself with an activity that relaxes me.
When I feel myself getting frustrated, I take deep breaths inhaling strength and exhaling anger. I remind myself that who I am at the core of my spirit remains the same regardless of the situation that I am facing.
I set myself up for success by foreseeing stressful situations and planning for them. I give myself plenty of time in my schedule to complete tasks so I can be patient while driving on the road or waiting in a line.
My inner dialogue is conducive to peace. I speak to myself in a positive, uplifting tone. I shut out people who are stress-inducers and surround myself with those who build me up.
Today, I exercise patience in love toward others because I would hope that others extend that same grace to me.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. How can breathing exercises help me keep my cool?
2. What changes can I make to my life to prevent stressful situations?
3. Do I stay true to myself and resist giving into anger?
Tags: Patience
