Now that you’re essentially safe and comfy, you begin using your energy more effectively. Only getting by isn’t good enough any longer. You start caring about doing a good job — maybe even your best. You consider time management and productivity and getting organized, things that weren’t so crucial to you at the level of disinterest. Consider this level as the development of willpower and self-control.
Willingness- Those individuals around you that are ceaseless optimists – this is their level of consciousness. Viewing life as one big possibility is the basis of those operating here. No more are you satisfied with complacency – you strive to do your best at whatever task you’ve set about. You start to develop self-control and willpower and learn the importance of sticking with a job till the end.
These individuals are the “troopers” of society; they get things done well and don’t sound off much. If you’re in school, then you’re a really adept student; you take your studies earnestly and put in the time to do a good job. This is the point where your consciousness becomes more organized and conditioned.
Most persons in life constantly seek ways to accomplish more during their precious days, only to get stuck accomplishing the same old average results. It Is not new to see this happening everyplace in this country and the main reason for this results is lack of centering or self-control. Listen closely at what I’m going to say, nothing can ever be accomplished of great esteem without self-control. If you review your life, you’ll probably see throughout your family tree a lack of self-discipline. Now, we can point fingers at why this happened or we can center on changing it.
The best way to have self-control in your life is to control your thoughts. Now the way to control your thoughts is by centering on what you want. You see, we always focus in our life to what’s important to us. For several spending lots of time in front of a TV is important and for other people is a total waste of time. Both kinds of individuals are right in their priorities, is just a matter of who you ask.
We’re not here to say who is and who is not. Your goal is to detect what’s important to you and then your second goal is to center on it. That’s the only way I know you are able to accomplish what you want. Achieving more daily has to do with your level of desire towards what you want. If you’ve a strong desire for the task, you automatically have more self-control. How come? Because is crucial to you. I know that’s simple, but who said concepts are meant to be complicated.
Now a potent shift happens, and you awake to the possibilities of living proactively. At the level of willingness you’ve become competent, and now you prefer to put your abilities to beneficial use. This is the level of setting and accomplishing goals. I don’t like the label “toleration” that Hawkins applies here, but it essentially means that you start accepting responsibility for your role in the world. If something isn’t correct about your life (your vocation, your health, your relationship), you specify your desired outcome and alter it. You begin to see the big picture of your life more clearly. This level drives many individuals to switch vocations, begin a new business, or alter their diets.
Toleration- If bravery is the realization that you’re the source of your life’s experiences, then it’s here where you become the creator of them. Blended with the skills learned in the Willingness phase, you start to awaken your potential through action. Here’s where you start to set and accomplish goals and to actively push yourself beyond your previous limitations. Up to this point you’ve been broadly reactive to what life throws at you. Here’s where you turn that around, take charge, and become proactive.
We need to realize the areas of our lives that we’ve refused to take responsibility for. The longer we deny their existence, the longer we stay in victim mode, allowing the wounded, inner child to control every aspect of our emotions. The programming of our inner child orders emotional response, but programming can be altered and the inner child eventually grows up and accepts responsibility for who they are, what they’ll become and how they treat other people. Our inner child is a vital part of who we are and there’s a big difference between a wounded, suffering inner child and a healthy, well-adjusted one.